A Woman Is Amenable to Sex When She Feels Appreciated

Romance allows a man to demonstrate that he is interested in a woman as a person and causes a woman to interpret a man’s sex drive as being personal to her. This is why men still pay for dates that don’t necessarily end in sex. A woman offers physical intimacy to a man as a token of the trust she hopes for. So she cannot imagine how her lover can contemplate sex, no matter how casual and lacking in meaning, with another woman.

Men care about sex almost more than life itself. So they are completely baffled when women have to be romanced into bed. Women who experiment with promiscuity do so only for a period of time. They enjoy casual sex for the thrill of the chase and the compliment. A woman who was truly orgasmic with a lover would not feel ‘used’ by ‘meaningless’ sex.

Masturbation relies on a woman knowing how to stimulate herself to orgasm. But a woman can engage in intercourse without needing to be either aroused or orgasmic. So cooperating with intercourse is achievable by more women and aligns with reproduction. There’s really no contest.

Young women often appear ‘more sexual’ than their elders. Not only do they have the advantage of a young body, but they also have more to gain by appearing to be sexually willing. They still have a mate to find.

Unfortunately once life settles down, the romance and the thrill of the chase inevitably dwindle. This is simply the natural transition from romance to long-term relationship. Many couples never realise the on-going need to invest in their wider relationship as well as in their sex life.

Emotional bonding is achieved not through orgasm but through the intimacy of penetration. But men want intercourse exists regardless of a relationship so a woman feels needed when lovemaking feels personal to her.

Over the longer term a woman can conclude that a man is using her body for sexual gratification if he no longer invests personal effort in her.

A man’s willingness to keep a woman happy increases exponentially when he is having ‘good sex’ (loving and intimate sex play) with a woman he loves. A woman stands to benefit from the pleasures of a quality sex life that includes explicit communication over sensual pleasuring.

A woman is amenable to sexual pleasuring when she has a quality relationship with a man. This is much more of a personal compliment than believing that a woman has sex just for the sake of her own orgasm.

Marriage and Sex – Balancing Frequency and Quality

Framing the issues:

Frequency, of course, references the number of times we make love during a period of time (weekly, monthly, etc.). There is, of course, the common concern of whether or not we’re ‘doing it’ regularly enough. The national average for married couple having sex weekly is about 1.9 to 2.6 by most polls. That’s about twice a week.

However, even if you’re doing twice per week, this may be too much for one of you and not enough for the other. So the challenge is to find a balance that satisfies mismatched sex drives

Quality, of course, is the perceived level of satisfaction achieved on average from what is shared prior, during, and after sexual intimacy. Again, there is a common concern…how do I get what I need while providing my spouse with what they need. National polls routinely prove that married couples are more satisfied with the quality of their lovemaking by a substantial margin. Length of time married and the overall health of the relationship seem to be critical factors among those polled.

However, many marriages see quality sacrificed for quantity or experience a lack of effort on the part of one or both spouses. So the challenge is to find a level of investment each can make that will create an acceptable level of satisfaction. What to do…what to do?

Approaching Issue Resolution:

Our recommendation are often to have us re-evaluate our assumptions of what frequency and quality are and how they relate to our situations. If we are having sex every night, over time, we may become dulled to the essential parts of quality sexual intercourse…anticipation and unpredictability. Arousal only gets us so far. Vaginal wetness and penile erection are physical responses to mental stimuli (for the most part). However, as with your favorite meal, one may tire of it eventually. The desire will return but it may be good to take breaks in between to re-establish appreciation. This is frequency negatively impacting quality.

If we are expecting 30 minutes of foreplay each time we make love OR if it takes a substantial amount of time to become ‘prepared’ for lovemaking, the events can be perceived as a chore for either spouse. Moreover, spouses may internalize the need for so much preparation (efforts to get the other aroused or ready) as being a lack of attraction. Men are susceptible to seeing their wives not being able to get ‘wet’ easily as not ‘wanting’ them. This may create a vicious cycle wherein husbands turn to an active fantasy life to ‘stroke’ their own egos and sustain sexual arousal. This also works in the reverse where wives see their husband’s lack of initiation as a rejection of them and shutdown emotionally and become guarded making it more difficult to accept their initiation of sex when offered. This may be the pursuit of quality impacting frequency.

In between the above scenarios, there are a number of different situations that most closely resemble our individual situations. Here are some questions to ponder for the purpose of discussing how to deal with issues of frequency (wanting it more or less often) and quality (wanting to emotionally connect better and share more deeply and creatively prior, during, and after sex):

1. How often would you prefer sex?

2. Whose frequency is not being satisfied? Why do you think that’s the case?

3. What is quality sex for you? What (sexual behavior or activity) do you want to happen more often than not?

4. How long should lovemaking last? How long does it last?

5. What are some of the barriers to you getting what you want or need?

6. What are some strategies for getting what you want or need that you’ve tried?

These are just a few of many questions we can ask each other and ourselves. Then, think of what our spouses might say if asked them.

How do we bridge the differences? How do we work toward mutual satisfaction? We talk. We negotiate. Ultimately, each sacrifices for the other. And we do these things from an abiding place of love, respect and a mutual desire to see the other pleased!

Beware! These Sex Habits Can Ruin Your Sexual Life

For most couples, sex is another routine just like eating. As a result, they do not even think about it or make deliberate efforts to improve the quality of their sex lives. No wonder, many men and women go out to get what they cannot work for in their matrimonial beds. Sex has become too mechanical and as a results a number of bad sex habits plaque and destroy sexual life.

Silence! Silence!!Silence!!! For most couples, all you hear during sex are only groans and screams. This is a wrong sex habit. Verbal communication during sex is a key to sexual satisfaction. The more you talk, the better you get at talking and the freer both of you will be to make suggestions about sex moves and positions, to tease each other with sexual jokes (this actually increases sexual arousal) and to direct attention to areas where you are getting less or more pleasure for the purpose of making adjustments

Man making the moves always. Women are naturally reserved and shy when it comes to initiating moves during sex. This should not be so. One of the roots of sexual conflicts is because women are not as free as men during sex. As the man, it is your duty to make your partner as wild as possible in bed. After all, your goal as a couple is to enjoy each other maximally and to avoid a situation where either of you starts to steal the show outside the home.

Having sex in darkness. Many couples have formed the habit of turning off the light before sex. This is not the best plan. Your bodies should be seen by either of you to maximize stimulation. Having lights on during sex increases visual stimuli, which in turn leads to faster stimulation especially for men. Being in darkness is like eating your favorite food without seeing it. The enjoyment is less. Do you agree? Try having the lights on the next time you are in bed with her

Same sex positions. Many couples, especially older ones are used to traditional sex positions. This removes the sexual intensity and variety from your sex life. No wonder, many couples do not even look forward to another day of sex. This is because they are going to experience another round of monotonous and boring display. Trying out new and unconventional sex positions, not only makes sex more interesting, it also increases sexual satisfaction.

Sears Promo Codes – What Can I Buy With Them?

A lot of people are looking for ways they can save money. Whether they are buying food, clothing, household items, and necessities, it is the innate nature of an individual to look for a discount. If they cannot find a discount, they will look for a cheaper option. This though, does not apply with Sears promo codes.

The beauty about having a code is that you can get to save some items on your shopping venture. Since you have gotten a promo code for Sears, you can make use of the discount only with the brand. But you should not worry on what you can use it with as Sears has a complete line of everything that you can possibly need or want. The only thing they lack is food.

You can use your promo code if you will buy appliances, automotive/tires, beauty, baby, bed, bath, home, books, clothing, electrical gadgets, gifts, fitness, sports, health, jewelry, and a lot of other products. With Sears, you can easily have choose what you want to buy as they have such an extensive array of available products that you can choose from. You can even buy gifts for your friends.

The list of items that you can buy with your Sears promo codes seems to be endless. Your needed items can simply be bought at Sears. Because of this, you do not need to go to another retail store so you can complete what’s on your list. Truly, this fact alone can already save you some money on transportation costs that you would have otherwise needed to spend.

Top Brand Professional Automotive Tools Reviewed – Know Your Budget

The tool market is well serviced in terms of brands, design, quality and price. The key consideration is to evaluate your needs. For example, it is pointless buying a laptop capable driving sophisticated 3G games when really all that is required from the unit is basic desktop and internet work. This kind of example also applies to buying tools. For instance, why waste one’s budget on buying the most expensive tools when their application is for occasional hobby type tasks.

Lets start with an overview comparison. It is widely agreed that the best quality and designed tools are manufactured by the Snap-on company. This brand of tools is designed for the professional market. No tool brand is perfect and infallible to failure. However, the Snap-on lifetime warranty means that when a tool breaks, it is replaced or repaired by the service representatives. Snap-on tools can be bought from their distribution trucks and vans that visit automotive workshops. Alternatively, their online catalog allows purchasing via the internet. Second-hand and recycled Snap-on tools are also eagerly traded through websites like eBay and eBay Partner sites.

As noted above, Snap-on automotive tools are at the upper price range. However, there is no shortage of professional grade tool brands at price points below that of the Snap-on brand. For example the brands: Matco, MAC and Cornwell are equally respected in the professional automotive sector. Matco, MAC and Cornwell off a range of professional tools that deliver quality and reliability while carrying sound lifetime warranties and professional after sales service. And are less expensive than the Snap-on brand for the budget minded professional automotive technician. The availability of these brands for sale is similar to Snap-on tools. Trucks visit and distribute tools at automotive workshops. Also, online catalogs and auction type websites offer buy opportunities.

For those budget sensitive buyers, the next set of tool brands is SK and Craftsman. The manufacturing quality of these brands meet USA standards and carry similar lifetime warranties like those brands mentioned above. So, for the semi-professional or hobbyist application these tool brands are an ideal choice. Some may argue that the SK brand, although not as popular, is a little superior to the Craftsman brand. But this opinion is subjective. Craftsmanship and SK brand tools are a more accessible to the buying market. For example, Craftsmanship brand tools are stocked at Sears stores, while the SK brand is found in automotive parts stores and outlets.

In summary, if price is no restraint, then tools from the Snap-on range are considered to be the best quality. Where quality and service is still a priority, then brands such as: matco, MAC and Cornwell offer offer quality profession lines of tools as less expensive price points. Finally, the brands SK and Craftsmanship serve the semi-professional market with tools that are not subject to the high demands of daily professional usage. The advice for any buyer is assess the task application of the tool, and allocate your budget to buy the right tool for the right job.

Automotive Dynamic Guide – How to Be Ready to Drive in a Foreign Land

If you are going to be behind the wheel of a new rented car, and in a strange foreign land where you have never driven before, what should you do in preparing to drive?

Just not so long ago, I was in Kuala Lumpur, the capital city of Malaysia, located just north of Singapore. As those of you who have traveled widely to Asia would know, the traffic on the roads in most of the Asian countries is heavy throughout the day, and many times driving habits take precedence over traffic rules and regulations, especially when the searing tropical heat bears down on cool heads, and raise tempers!

Before me was a small locally produced Malaysian car – the Perodua Kancil- named after the tiny deer that can run swiftly through the Malaysian jungles.

And I need to use that car, to brave the heavy traffic of the day to move to the next nearest city of Shah Alam to attend to a business meeting.

Alien to the area, alien to the car- what should I do?

Indeed, when you are confronted with such a situation, what should you do?

Keep cool – and PLAN your journey, and use the car intelligently.

For instance, perform the very, very basic inspection on your car before you even use it. This means:

1. check the tires and their pressure

2. check the engine oil and their brake fluid

3. check the battery

4. ensure the brakes are functioning ( there’s nothing like to take it for a short slow ride to put it to the test! )

Plan your journey- for instance, do not be afraid to ask directions and record them down so that you can always refer to the notes. Plan the timing of your journey – so that you can always drive during the slower traffic periods, away from the maddening crowds in the rush hour traffic. Protect yourself especially your eyes from the glaring tropical sun by wearing light sunglasses. Be properly attired. And wear shoes! The last tip on wearing shoes may seem funny, but when it is perennial summer in the tropics, many visitors, especially those who come from the cooler temperate countries would be tempted to wear only sandals!

And when you go on the roads, observe the speed limits. Do not push your vehicle to the maximum speed limits especially where you are driving along strange highways and where traffic jams are a norm.

In my personal case, I was astonished to see cars doubled parked along busy suburb shopping areas and feeder roads while I cruised my way to my destination. I wasn’t sure whether that was allowable, as the double parking of cars in two rows converted the road into a narrow one way path, leading to congestion at many parts. It sure was a “revelation”!

But in a strange land, where you are not the expert in local traffic rules, it is best to play it save. Drive defensively and plan your travel to ease your journey, and you will enjoy that ride.

Unique Oil Change Concepts Research

In the mobile oil change business there is no standard system, many folks simply build what works or buy a biz-op unit that makes since to them. For years we have studies these various types of units in the market place. If you are in the oil change business you realize how serious it is to stay efficient. In our company like anyone else in this industry, we are out to bring new innovation to the market. We have been looking at ways to better our services.

We have been to http://www.Kibbi.com in Elkhart, Indiana, we have viewed there unit in another state. We have discussed these and other concepts with other engineers and thinkers. What we have decided is that all ideas are worthy of exploration in our quest to find the most efficient and most environmentally sensitive units. Why are we so driven to build a better mouse-trap? Why are we un deterred with the exploitations of Box Stores changing oil, such as Wal-Mart on what appears to be a below cost endeavor at $12.99. Why do we believe that it is possible to stay efficient enough to compete? Because we see the new innovations out on the street and see entrepreneurs everywhere are rising to the occasion.

Well this year in San Diego, Jiffy Lube is announcing a new program for franchisees with extended bays and adding everything from brake jobs, and engine repair including complete R and R rebuilding of motors. It makes sense for them due to the increased competition in the market place. Midas Muffler has also gone to changing brakes and oil changes. Tilden Franchise is also looking to co-partner with other services and to bundle services to compete. Jiffy Lube’s largest franchisee with well over 150 stores; was de-listed by NASDAQ; are we witnessing a new era in automotive repair and oil changes? We think so.

We watched recently as Roger Penske left Kmart as they closed the doors on 500 stores nationwide and now are merging with Sears in their re-organization plan and closing another 150 stores. In Tucson, AZ for instance we see Kmart on the North West side of town pulling out of the market and then we see a new awesome Valvoline Oil Change Facility on the same property with a 2 million dollar carwash and Detailing Center? Why, well as Lance Fisher the proprietor sees it, he can bundle services, get a no interest loan deal from Valvoline, give the customers what they want and his incredible facility will draw three different services to the same property. Is this the answer to the price wars, bundling, like Microsoft? Well Lance Fisher bets with real money in Tucson, is that a good bet? We think it is, you should see this place, WOW, one of the nicest carwashes in the country, ranks up there with Auto-Wash East and Danny’s Family Carwashes in Phoenix.

These are just a few of the latest interesting changes in the Industry. Some would say this Industry is stagnant. We disagree. We are watching Kendall battle for the latest changes in oil change interval extension and the war against traditional thinking with AMSOIL, Mobile One and others. Lots of new innovations and claims to come; who will lead? Well as we approach the pack and have our sights on the Yellow Jersey, we believe that the team who can service the customer and bring the value will be team yellow. We know this is an up hill grind and we will pursue the race with open eyes and an open mind. If you are in the Oil Change Business Think on this.

Caring for Leather Car Interiors

Leather consists of thousands and thousands of intertwined fibers, with penetrable pores throughout–just like skin. Proper maintenance starts with cleaning the fibers. Cleaning removes fiber-severing abrasives and pore clogging dirt and dust, both of which will breakdown the leather over time and give it a less than pleasing texture and appearance.

If you have pets, then you may want to invest in pet pads or pet seat covers for your interior. You will also want to look into a good reflective sun shield.

With regular cleaning and conditioning, a leather interior will last for the life of the vehicle. Leather is tough and abuse resistant. The main concern is to determine is what type of leather interior you have, then choose cleaners and conditioners designed specifically for the task. Traditional leather interiors are made of 100% leather, where as some modern interiors are leather coated with a supple vinyl.

A quick test to determine which type you have is to use a small amount of cool clean water. Traditional leather will absorb water, where vinyl coated leather will repel it. Either way, a few drops of water won’t harm your interior.

The next step is to determine the right cleaners and conditioners for your leather. Saddle soap and conditioners, while good for your baseball glove or go-go boots, are not to be used on automotive leather of any kind. The soap contains alkalis, which can permanently damage the material in your seats. Household detergents and cleaners can damage leather as well. Always use only a product designed for the type of leather your vehicle has.

Removing harmful oil and dirt deposits is the crucial first step. Always use clean soft cloths to prevent damage to, or inadvertent removal of the leather dye. Stubborn dirt lodged into crevices may require the use of an upholstery brush. Removal of gunk and grime must be done before conditioning the leather, as you don’t want to permanently push these contaminants into the pores.

The next step, probably even more important, is conditioning. This nourishes and moisturizes to lubricate individual fibers, keeping them from becoming brittle and dry. It replaces essential, natural oils that evaporate. How can you tell a good conditioner? A good conditioner will offer UV protection. Like human skin, ultra-violet rays will quickly cause deterioration of the leather and shorten its lifespan significantly. A good conditioner will be absorbed into the leather, not sit atop the surface or leave residue behind. The surface should not be oily after application. The very best conditioners are pH balanced, have stain repellants, waterproofing agents to protect from accidents.

While cleaning and conditioning your interior be sure not to leave any tools or sharp objects in your pockets that could put a hole in your seats and your good time. As with any cleaner, conditioner or chemical that involves the potential for ruining something really expensive, always test first in a small, inconspicuous area.

Inexpensive leather cleaners and conditioners will contain petroleum distillates, silicon or silicon oils, and gloss agents that deliver an inferior, greasy finish that does nothing for the leather, and transfers to anything that the leather comes in contact with. These chemicals are harmful to your leather.